Bule Oh Bule

I woke up in the morning lazily. I am in holiday and I have no certain activity..So I decided just to be lazy around. I  have been online from morning until evening and chatting with some of my friends. I just finished a short conversation with one of my friends in Indonesia. As far as I know, She is really into bule (westerners with a specific characteristic such as blue of green eyes, blond hair, white skin, tall and of course they come from Europe, America or Australia). I was so tired with all the “bule conversation” that she always brings and also maybe because I am inside the house and infront of my laptop for a whole day, I am quite bored so I decided to reply her message when she say hi to me. Those are a conversation between us.

Sani      : Hi ef…how are you?

Efrata   : Hi, I am fine and doing great here.

Sani      : kapan married? (when will you be married?)

Efrata   : Mungkin 2 atau 3 tahun lagi, ga tahu, belum mikirin, dijalani aja..sekarang lagi focus belajar. Lo      gimana? Siapa pacar lo skg? (maybe 2 or 3 years later, I don’t think about it yet, I still focus to my study, and you? Who’s you boyfriends now?),

Sani      : Gw belum mau bilang, ..tapi doakan saja, ntar juga gw bilang klo udah pasti. Doain aja ya..mdh2an aja gw insya Allah segera married. (I don’t want to say now, please pray that I will marry soon)

Efrata   : benarkah? amien..semoga sama orang baik2 yah (really? I hope that you are married with a  good person)

Sani      : iya.. inshaAllah. Amin... smg sm org yg baik2.. (I hope so)

Efrata   : sama bule juga? (with whom are you married? Bule?)

Sani      : thank ya say hehehe iya say.. Alhamdulillah sm bule jg (yes, with bule)

Efrata    : btw boleh nanya ga? kenapa sih lo ngebet banget pengen punya pacar dan nikah sama bule?..mang apa yang special dari bule? (can I ask you something? Why are you really into bule?something special with them?)

Sani      : lol.....  lol.. lo kok tanya gw.. lo sendiri pacaran sm sven..hehehe (why do you ask me? How about you? Why do you have a relation with sven?)

Efrata    : gw pacaran sama sven, bukan karena dia bule, tapi karena gw cinta sama dia,  sebelumnya pacar gw 2 orang indonesia..(I have a relation with him, not because he is a bule, but because I love him, before him I had 2 another Indonesian boyfriends)

Sani      : asiikk... (yippieee)

Efrata   : nah lo kan mang ngincar bule, jadi yah gw penasaran dan heran aja (but you? I am just curious.)

Sani      :ef cinta sven hihihihi J. gw gak ngincar banget kok say.. tp klo inshaAllah gw dpt bule yg baik.. yess gw mau (wew, ef loves sven. I am not targeting to get bule. But if I get a good bule, yessss I want.)

Efrata   : lah emang cinta..klo ga cinta ngapain gw pacaran.  klo lo kan, bahkan pacaran jarak jauh juga lo bela2in asal bule. (I love sven indeed, if not, why I should I have a realtion with him, but you? Even long distance relation you will, as long as he is a bule)

Sani     : semua org yg gandengan sm bule.. pasti di cap klo mereka doyan bule hehhe. (people assume that everyone who has a bule as a partner targets a bule as their partner)

Efrata  : tapi lo ga gandengan sama bule, juga dicap doyan bule.. (but you, you don’t have a bule bf, but everyone assume you are into bule)

Sani   : gw beberapa bln yg lalu putus sm ex bf.. dia dulu expat di jkt.. org aussie.. skrg pts gr2 dia selingkuh  (I was just end my relation with an Australian, because he had an affair)

Efrata : trus apa yang menarik dari pacar2 bulemu selama ini? (then what does the most interesting part of your bule bf?)

Sani    : hmm... apa ya.. beda budaya, beda ras, bahasa. (different culture, race and language)

Efrata  : trus apa yang menarik? klo beda kenapa say? (then?)

Sani     : kan seru kalo beda.. hahaha....(differential is an interesting part)

Efrata  : klo sama orang afrika kulit hitam , mau lo? (do you want to have a relation if he come originally from Africa with black skin?)

Sani     : hmmm..... gak tau dehh  (hmm… I don’t know)

Efrata  : kan seru beda banget...(but it’s really different between you and him, means interesting)

Sani     : hmm.. no comment.. ahh…. no comment.. ahh

Efrata   : hahaha.. trus klo sama bule tapi miskin banget mau lo? (If with a really poor bule?)

Sani      : hmm…pokoknya mau yang baik (I want a good person)

Efrata    : miskin juga ga apa2? miskin banget loh?(is it ok if he is poor?)

Sani      : gak tau, (I don’t know).

I know some of you will give different reactions and opinions about this conversation. But this topic is a hot topic and never ending story. I have some opinions about these conversation such as:

1. At least, she can be honest that she is really into bule and she is honest enough to say: I don’t know with some of my questions about poor western and African. Some people will be just saying: yeah, I will as long as He is a good person, even inside their heart they will never want to have that kind of partner.
2. She is not the only person that target a bule as her partner. Or maybe people will judge me one of them also, even I find myself not that kind of person. Is it bad or good? I am not the right person to judge. I am just worry if she is not selective enough, one day she will fall in to a bad bule and she will regret it. But even so, who am I judging her live, It’s her live anyway!
3. But How  is this perception built? Some people’s perception which the bule is better than Indonesian? And why only  the white man? It must be a reason behind that, I think my experience can describe it:

a.  I growth in an industrial area somewhere in Riau province, the biggest pulp and paper factory in Southeast Asia is in my hometown. My mum is a Taylor and I used to help her after school. She had westerners or some  westerner’s wife  as her customers. They were really easy customers, they never bargained the price and they never complained. I built up a new perception in my brain that all westerner is a rich man and easy man.

b. I have seen many kids from mix parents Asian-European beautiful and handsome. They took all the best part physically from their parents. So I think of it, married with bule is not a bad idea to give a better inherit.

c. I have started to speak English for the first time when I was in junior high school. My teacher always said if I want to have all knowledge in this world, I need to speak English. English is an international language and by knowing the language you can open the window of the world to see everything. Because of that I go everyday to a swimming pool where all bule goes. I practiced my English there and It’s was so amazing for me to know that they were really good in English (which was very difficult for me). Because it’s really difficult, I saw someone who can speak English properly as a clever, modern, cool person. And have a relation with a bule means your English is good enough.

d. Bule comes from development countries. Which are many things far beyond developing countries. We want to be like them. I think that’s the reason why we at least I see bule “higher”.

Well,  whatever It is , in the end I just hope that She can find a good man. J