Jul 31, 2010

Vooroordelen En Discriminatie: Oplossing of Aanvaarden ?





Vandaag heb ik  de eerste les van Niveau 4 van de Nederlandse cursus gevolgd. Yipppiiiiieeeee…Een jaar geleden  had ik nooit gedacht dat ik hier wou blijven en  Nederlands  kon spreken of schrijven. Ik wist niet zeker dat ik een plaats had voor Niveau 4 omdat ik me te laat ingeschreven had dus stond ik op een wachtlijst. Ik was zenuwachtig of ik  deze maand nv 4 kon volgen. Toen ik wist dat ik een plaats had was ik gerust.  Volgens mij is dit niveau verschillend. Nu moeten wij meer spreken en schrijven dan in niveau 1, niveau 2 en niveau 3. Wij moeten moeilijke teksten lezen en wij proberen moeilijke woorden  te begrijpen.

In Les 1 studeerden wij over het thema “Stereotypen en Vooroordelen”. Aan het begin van de les, beluisterden wij het liedje van Frank Boeijen “zwart wit” en dan vroeg de lerares ons wat het liedje betekende. Dit liedje gaat over vooroordelen. Gewoonlijk vragen we ons af wie wij zijn en waar wij bij horen. We zijn vaak op zoek naar onze identiteit. Om nog eens extra te benadrukken bij welke group we horen. Er ontstaat een sfeer van “wij” en “zij”. Waarbij “wij” staat voor alles wat goed is en ‘zij’ voor wat slecht is.

Ik heb me geïnteresseerd voor dit thema en ik heb een ander artikel  over dit thema gelezen. Het onderwerp van de artikels die ik heb gelezen is Vooroordelen, Discriminatie en racisme (http://www.art1.nl/artikel/1377-Vooroordelen_discriminatie_en_racisme). Van dit artikel vond ik wat deze woorden betekenen en ik wil ze hier graag opnieuw schrijven.

  1.  Vooroordelen : Mensen worden vaak in groepen ingedeeld  aan de hand van zulke overeenkomsten. Voor het spraakgebruik is het wel gemakkelijk, om over zwarten, blanken,  Marokkanen, Turken, Christenen, Moslims, Hindoes, niet-gelovigen te spreken. Maar het heeft wel nadelen, wanneer mensen niet in de eerste plaats als een persoon (individu) worden gezien, maar als groep.
  2. Discriminatie: Vooroordelen kunnen leiden tot discriminatie. Door vooroordelen krijgen mensen niet de kans om te laten zien wie ze zijn of wat ze kunnen. Discriminatie is het ongelijk behandelen van mensen op basis van kenmerken die er helemaal niet toe doen, zoals afkomst, huidskleur, sekse en seksuele voorkeur.
  3. Racisme is het als ongelijkwaardig zien en behandelen van mensen op grond van verschillen in huidskleur, cultuur of afkomst.

Het is oneerlijk als mensen je zien op basis van een groep waarbij je hoort, op basis van de huidskleur of van religië. Maar toch zien we dit automatisch. We kunnen verschillende redenen hebben, bewust of onbewust. We krijgen altijd dezelfde identiteit ergens en soms kunnen wij dat niet veranderen zoals huidkleur, geboorteland en geslacht. Die manier heeft voordelen en nadelen voor elke persoon afhankelijk van de situatie, tijd, plaats.

Ik heb veel ervaringen van vrienden van mij gehoord over discriminatie en ik heb ook  iets meegemaakt. Dus zal ik proberen om dat allemaal te beschrijven.

  1. Mijn vriend en ik zijn naar een klein eiland gegaan. En daar hebben wij gehoord over onbewust racisme.  De mensen van dit eiland waren 100% christelijk en moslims mochten er niet komen. Als de mensen wisten dat er een moslim kwam, zouden ze hem verdrijven. Ze zouden nooit vragen waarom hij kwam. Ze zeiden dat het niet belangrijk was en ze wisten alleen dat het voor een moslim verboden was om er te komen. We vroegen hen waarom ze dat deden en ze konden hier niet op antwoorden  omdat de regel er al waren voor ze geboren werden.
  2. Toen ik klein was, verhuisde mijn familie naar een plaats waar 90% van de mensen moslim waren. Alle regels gebruikten ze op basis van de koran. Het paste niet bij ons omdat we christen zijn maar toch moesten we dat volgen. In mijn school moest ik elke vrijdag de vrouwelijke kledij van de moslims dragen. Als ik het niet wou dragen, kon ik geen lessen volgen en mocht ik daar niet studeren. Op een specifieke maand vasten moslims elk jaar en de eerste week moesten alle restaurants gesloten zijn uit respect voor hun religie . De andere religies mochten enkel binnen eten of drinken. Dus moesten we ook vasten op.
  3. Mijn vriend had een reis rond Azië gemaakt en in sommige landen betaalde hij  meer dan  de lokale bevolking. We zijn naar een toeristische plaats  gegaan en wanneer we iets wouden kopen, probeerden verkopers om het duurder te verkopen. Ze dachten dat blanken (westerlingen/de mensen die uit Europa of Amerika komen) rijk zijn en duurdere dingen konden betalen.
  4. Een vriendin van mij kwam uit het Midden-Oosten en zij wou graag hier wonen. Zij probeerde een appartement te huren. Twee maanden lang vond zij veel appartementen die te huur stonden, maar er  waren geen eigenaars die hun appartement aan haar wilden verhuren omwille van haar afkomst.

Van diverse mensen heb ik meer ervaringen gehoord dan ik hier kan beschrijven. Maar vooroordelen bestaan en meestal is het een negatieve ervaring. Ik heb geen oplossing voor deze vooroordelen en deze discriminatie omdat ik geloof dat het een proces is. Misschien verandert de situatie in de toekomst, misschien de volgende 5 jaar, 10 jaar of 100 jaar, dat weten wij niet. Ik geloof dat men kan leren omgaan met discriminatie en vooroordelen, maar ze oplossen kan niet. Bijvoorbeeld in de derde situatie, konden wij afbieden tot de laagste prijs dat we iets konden kopen, en in de vierde situatie, moest zij niet  opgeven. Zij kon meer appartementen zoeken en ik geloof dat niet alle eigenaars vooroordelen hebben. Van sommige eigenaars geeft het  wie hun appartementen huurt, voor hen is het bedrijf een bedrijf. Dus discrimineren we of we worden gediscrimineerd; het is menselijk en gebeurt automatisch. En het is aan ons om hier op een positieve of negatieve manier op te reageren. We kunnen ons druk maken over vooroordelen en bij de pakken blijven zitten of we kunnen proberen om een goede oplossing te vinden. Aan ons de keuze.

Jul 15, 2010

They Are Missing Me Like I Do






Yipppiiiiieeeeeeeee, I just got the confirmation and e-ticket from KLM, I would flight back to Indonesia at 13 December 2010 after almost a year here in Europe. I am enormous happy, absolutely happy even It’s only 3 weeks and even It’s still 5 months to go. Knowing that I will be home, I will meet many friends back, I will talk without concentration too much (Here, I have to speak in English or in Dutch, so if I am tired the pronunciation isn’t clear anymore). I could  not keep it especially when I had nothing to do except online. So I published them that I would go home and many reaction that I got. Here they are:

Efrata     : Mum, I have changed my flight, I would flight home at 13 December
Mum      : Oh..That’s great..just arrange everything for your trip, I will talk to your sister to make sure that She will be married in January 2011, so you can still attend!


Efrata     : Sis, I have changed my flight, I would flight home at 13 December. So make sure your wedding is match with my date coz I would fly to Belgium back around 7-9 January because I have to do the semester end test at 12 January.
Sister      : What? Why so early? I would talk about it to my fiancé. I think It should be ok..We plan to get married around 3-5 January 2011.


Efrata Tampubolon Facebook Status: Pulaaaaaaaaaannnnnngggggggggg.................. (Coming back home..)
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pulang kmn mam? papa lg makan neh di nasi uduk kebon kacang dpn kampus.. kapan kt mkn di lapo lg? (Where do you go? I am eating now in Kebon Kacang Restaurant, when will we eat in Lapo together?)
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Pulang ke Indo papa, tiketku baru aja aku confirm untuk tanggal 13desember, nyampe jakarta tanggal 14...malamnya langsung kita makan lapo.. :) (I will come home at 13 december, at night 14, we will go directly to Lapo)
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Aseeeekkk!!! miss u
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Ka ef plg desember? ditunggu ya.. (Ef, do you home December? I am waiting you..)
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@Nico And Rita: AKu kangeeeeeennnn kalian semua, baru aja dapat email confirm dari KLM pasti pulang tanggal 13 dec. hahahaha Party kita di Lapo, Sabang, Taman Menteng, L, dan tentu saja Pizza hut.. (I miss you all..)
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Ok dh. tar kalo da nyampe lgsg kbrin ya kak.. walaupun msh lama, aq seneng bs ktmu lw lg. (Let me know when you arrived, even still few months to go, I am happy to meet you again)
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Efrata     : Le, Aku pasti pulang,  baru selesai telpon mamakku klo aku pulang (Le, for sure, I will home, I just called my mum to let her know )
Yulia       : pasti sudah rindunya itu boi, kau lsg plg ke riau kah? (Your mum really miss you, doesn’t she? Do you go directly to you hometown )
Efrata     : enggak boi, dijakarta dulu..mau ketemu teman2 lah.. (Nope, I will meet you guys first)
Yulia       : kurang ajar…hahahahaa
Efrata     : rencana mau buat party kita boi dijakarta (I have a plan to make a small party)
Yulia       : mantab, ikutan gw harrrrrrrrrrrrruuuuuuuusssssssss… ef ef mash brapeee bulan lg btw, masih lamaaaaaa. (Great, You have to invite me,..It’s a must…ef ef, It’s still long to go, a few months )
Efrata     : hahahaha.. tapi karena baru confirm tiket senaaaaaaaaaaaaaannnnnnngggg gw,  sumpah, gw kangen banget sama Indonesia, kangen kalian, kangen ngomong ga pake mikir,  disini kan mesti ngomong pake inggris atau belande..suseh.. (I know, but I am happy to get my ticket confirmed, I swear, I miss Indonesia, I miss you guys, I miss to speak less concentration, here, I have to think before speak in English or Dutch, no one will understand me if I speak Bahasa Indonesia )
Yulia       : hahahahaaa tp itu priceless ef

Efrata     : Yuhuuuuuuuuuuuu Aku pulaaaannggg…….
Karti       :hahhhh? km di indoooo? yg beneeeuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr? (What????, Are you in Indonesia? Really?????????????)
Efrata     : bukan, maksudnya tiket pulangku baru aku reconfirm ke KLM buat tanggal 13 desember (No, but my ticket is confirmed for 13 desember)
Karti       : hihhi nanti kbrin ya pas di sini, natalan di indo ya skrg … wahh lo bener2 inspiratif frat  (Please let me know when you are here, you are my inspiration)
Efrata     : iya (yep)

Efrata     : Ros, gw pulang tanggal 13 desember…… (Ros, I am going to go home at 13 December )
Rosi         : hua....... mampir ke jkt ngga???? (Are you going to Jakarta too?)
Efrata     : mampir  mau ketemuan kalian2… kangeeeennnnnnnnnnn (Yep, absolutely, I miss you guys )
Rosi         : yup..yup..miss you….
Efrata     : gw pengen ngumpul2 asssooooooyyyyyy nih sama kalian (I want us to gather together)
Rosi         : dimana? hokben? lo masih inget hokben ngga??? (Where? Hokben? Still remember Hokben)
Efrata     : aaahhhhhhh kamuuuu, jadi kangen hokben… (Ahhhh you are bet, I miss Hokben)
*Hokben is a kind of Japanese instant restaurant where I almost everyday had my lunch when I was in Indonesia.

One conclusion for all those conversation is all of them are waiting me to come home and missing me when I am gone. I know when I arrive there next time, friends and family miss me like I do. 

Jul 14, 2010

The way you see the world depends on where you grew up


I thought before that most of citizen of developed have nothing to complain to their government. They must be grateful to be raised in those countries. The system focus to the people and makes corruption as a difficult business. They could reach the Maslow’s highest hierarchy of  needs “Self-actualization needs”  through implementation of the system, but people doesn’t stop to complain. Those are one short conversation of so many similar conversations before.

Jan        : From now  until the end of the year we start to work for our self.
Efrata    : I don’t get it, what do you mean?
Tom      : Yeah..from January until June, We have worked for government, and then we will work for our self from now.
Efrata    : Ahaaa.., so because the taxes that you guys have to pay are almost 50% of you salary, am I right?
Tom      : Yep
Efrata    : So what are you complaining guys? I can understand if every month half of your salary goes to Government, It makes you cranky, but It’s still a lot of money, with that money you can have a luxury life which most of people in my country never have. The goods is  3 times more expensive here than in my country, but your net salary is 6-7 times more than in Indonesia (with a same job and responsibility). So It’s a lot and more than enough for live.
Tom       : Well, you can’t say that more than enough. Everyone here require a better life, I know It’s a luxury, but we want to have more and more than before. We would love to have that luxury and because of that, sometimes we are stress. We would love to have more than we could have. We think every time to improve our skill, to put some more knowledge and ability and in the end to gain more salary.
Efrata    : That’s normal too, Everyone in everywhere would like to improve their self and to have more,  but see how your country is developed. The government uses the taxes  properly and now you have  such some luxury facilities. Here I can be relax use a public transportation: The bus stop when I step in and step out; Full air conditioner and heater for every seasons;  and I paid only 10 Euro per month; You can drive without worrying a hole in the highway; First aid and ambulance come in time when there is an accident because there are cameras everywhere;. In terms of healthiness, you guys have such a great system: You paid about 20% of all cost like medication, hospital, doctor etc; Whenever you have a heavy disease, you just need to be worried of your health not the cost because your mutualitet (a system for healthiness etc in Belgium ) covers it for you; The hospital, the medication and the laboratory use the high-end technology. In terms of welfare: If your doctor can prove that you have a disease that makes you couldn't work, you would get monthly money from government; You get enough pension welfare when you are old, so you wouldn’t be depending on your kids or others; If the company fire you, you get monthly money from government, while you are searching for a new job. We would never get all those luxuries in my country. We never paid that big of taxes and most of us could not survive if we paid half of our salary as taxes to Government.
Tom       :  You are right, but We are used to these luxuries and We don’t see them as  the luxury facilities anymore. We see it as a normal condition, a right that everyone has to get. We are used to complain and to whine because we always want to have more.
Efrata    : Have you ever traveled  to Asia, Thailand or Indonesia for Instance, or maybe
             India?
Tom and Jan       : No, not yet
Efrata    : You have to, and maybe after your trip,  you will be more grateful with your life here. I learnt a lot here. Before I came here, I didn’t see many things as my right such as the bus stops for me, the bus has to go to the end route (bus station), the car stops when a pedestrian cross the street and so on.

“Some get more than enough but they don’t realize they get so much, the other get less than they should get but they don’t know that’s their rights until each of them live in the other’s place”

Do you see the differences ?

These pictures have been taken from :

A Destiny ???

This is a story how’s life can change…
This is a story about a future that you never could predict…
This is a story about me…

Fragment 1:  March 2009

I was a student of State University of Jakarta and a member of ISAFIS (Indonesian Student Organization For International Studies/ http://www.isafis.org/) and I have been also a member of couchsurfing (www.couchsurfing.org. See this website to know more about couchsurfing) since 2008. For the first time in my life, I decided to travel alone to Singapore, Malaysia, Thailand and Vietnam. I attended a Model United Nation in  Nanyang University, Singapore and Vietnam International Week 2009 at Saigon, Vietnam. As a single traveler, I would love to meet locals or travelers around so I posted a message in Vietnam group. This was a big trip for me, because I never went to other country before.
A member of couchsurfing from Belgium sent me an email and I replied:



From
Sven Delmeiren   (Gent, East-Flanders, Belgium)
Sent
March 4th, 2009 - 6.59
Title
Your post in the Vietnam group

Hi Efrata,
Just saw your message in the Vietnam group. I'm currently in Phnom Penh, flying to Saigon tonight. Will arrive there around 8.35pm... but I guess it's going to be too late to meet up when i booked into a hostel and such.
I'll probably be in Saigon until Friday at least as 2 friends of mine - an Australian one and a Malaysian one - will arrive as well, after that probably heading north.
While I'm there, I'm always up for meeting for some sightseeing or a drink, so if you're available and wanna meet up, give a shout !

Kind regards,
Sven

To
Sven Delmeiren   (Gent, East-Flanders, Belgium)
sent
March 4th, 2009 - 7.05
Title Re: Your post in the Vietnam group
Hi Sven,
I can meet up for tonight or friday night, I am in saigon until 9 March morning, but thursday until friday evening I will go to Vung Tau beach, so let me know if you or your friends can meet me at that timein saigon.
Just give me call or text me in my vietnam number.
Hope to see you
Cheers,

Efrata


We had managed to meet up at couchsurfing’s dinner together with many others couchsurfer’s locals and travelers. We had a briefly conversation not more than 1 hour.  My CP (Contact person that has been showed by the committee’s IW) drove me back to my host family. On the motorbike on the way back, We talked a bit how the dinner was.

Diep       : The guy who come from Belgium was nice and sympathy. Did you like him?
Efrata    : He is inspiring me even to travel more, He quitted his job to travel for one year around Asia. Not much people want to do it. But like him? Not at all. He is not my type. I would love to have an Indonesian boyfriend but if I would fall in love with a westerner, He has to have a certain criteria’s like brown eyes, dark hair, not pale skin which Sven doesn’t have.

Fragment 2: July 2009

I have been graduated in May 2009 and I have planned to find a  fulltime job as soon as I can.  I have worked as a tutor for a homeschooling community in Bogor and sometimes as a trainer/a facilitator for some outdoor activities except that I have had no activity.

Sven Delmeiren 8 juli 2009 om 21:46
Hi Efrata!

Don’t know if you remember me. We met in Saigon earlier this year… we both joined a cs meeting and talked outside before you had to leave. I remember you told me you lived in Indonesia… in Jakarta, right?

Well… my travels have brought me to Jakarta… I’m here now. Would be fun if we could meet! I’ll only be in Jakarta for 2 more days though. Can you drop me a line or text me at +628138296xxxx?

Take care !

From       : Efrata 081379xxxxx
To            : Sven   +628138296xxxx
I remember you, nice to know you here. One of my friends will be married tomorrow, that will be an authentic experience to you. So if you have time we can meet up and go to the wedding together.


He, a bunch of my friends and I went to the wedding together and spent the whole evening together in a Karaoke room. He and his friend invited me to go for a trip to thousand island. That’s weekend, I had no other plan and I never went there. So I decided to join J. Two days there was fun and shortly Sven and I fell in Love.

Fragment 3: July 2010

                                       Sven and I with the bucket of flower

Lily and sun flower, anyone know do they have a special meaning?

    Do you see a small card there? :)

                                           I can't hide my feeling, I am so happy!

                                         A card comes together with the flowers

                                            Finally I found a nice pot to put in the flowers

They are a bucket of beautiful flowers, aren’t they? This is my first time to get a bucket of flowers from my boyfriend. A bucket of flowers to remain me that we have been together for one year. This one blessing year with full support from him.

Fragment 4: A future
We are still busy creating our future and I hope God gives his blessing upon us. We never know what His plan on us or at least on me.

You never know what happen the next few days of your life, neither me...

Jul 13, 2010

My Dream And Her Dream

I am quite busy this week writing and posting some new articles in my  blog. I am so happy because finally I have a blog lol :P. Many friends request me to write all my journeys and experiences in a blog but I kept on delay it, I acted like a super busy woman and in the end, all the experiences fade up and blurry. How many experiences have been forgotten by me.

Now, I have my own blog, a simple diary where I can share with friends and others. A first start to bring my dream to be real. I will write books and publish them one day, Many people will enjoy that books, some good books. I know also to  be a good writer, I need to write everyday to sharpen my ability, my inspiration, my idea, and my style of writing. It doesn't come suddenly after wrote 2 or 3 articles. I need to write thousands articles before I am satisfied with my articles, before It's good enough.

Yesterday, I was proud of my new blog. I showed him to Myriam (Sven’s mum) and Marc (her husband). I told them that I really want to be writer. She told me that she had that dream also. It motivates me even more, why? Since I came here, I passed a lot of problem and also cultural different which was really difficult for me. Sometimes I cried, crashed, and gave up but they were always there for me, to hold me up, to listen to me, to cheer me up, and to understand me.  I become stronger and stronger than before because of them. I can feel that they accept and love me fully who I am.  I start to love them, I start to feel become one of their family members, I start to share all my vision in life. I want to be writer, not just to realize my dream but her dream. She will  proud of me one day that's my promise.

Jul 9, 2010

Kasus Video Porno yang berlarut-larut

Hari ini aku sangat disibukkan buat persiapan pesta kebun yang akan dilaksanakan sabtu 10 juli 2010, rencananya mau menyediakan siumay juga sebagai snacks, dan untuk itu aku harus pergi ke Gent membeli siumay itu, begitu semua list belanjaan dibeli aku pulang dan siap2 untuk makan siang. Hari ini aku akan bersepeda bersama cathy –temanku yang asli dari Filipina- dan putrinya jam 3 sore, tapi ini masih jam 2 siang, maka aku putuskan untuk memeriksa mungkin ada email baru dan chat dengan teman di Indonesia. Aku juga putuskan untuk cek status teman-teman facebook dan ada salah satu status yang sangat menarik perhatianku, begini statusnya:
 Gue tuh heran deh, kok nggak ada yang merasa bahwa penyelidikan polisi terhadap tubuh luna maya (payudara) dan ariel (alat kelaminnya) sebagai hal yang aneh? apa itu bukan pelecehan?kalau kita menganggap mereka berdua itu melecehkan kita dengan membuat video porno, lalu apa bedanya dengan apa yang dilakukan terhadap mereka? moral kita tuh emang cuma sampe tingkat "kamu mukul aku, aku pukul kamu", kekanak-kanakkan!”

Dan kemudian temanku ini memuat status baru masih berkenaan dengan hal yang sama:
“Kita mendesak Luna maya, ariel dan cut tari minta maaf. mereka minta maaf kita cibir. lantas bagi yang udah mengunduh dan menikmati video mereka, kapan minta maafnya ama merekaa?”

Kedua status ini membuat aku penasaran untuk melihat kasus video porno ini lebih lanjut di Youtube. Seingat aku, kasus ketiga artis terkenal di Indonesia ini sudah diberitakan sejak beberapa bulan lalu namun mengapa masih ramai dibicarakan oleh media yah?

Sebenarnya aku yang awam ini tidak paham pasal apa yang bisa menjerat mereka dengan beredarnya video porno tersebut. Bukan baru kali ini ada video porno tersebar, semenjak bertahun-tahun lalu, video porno dapat dibeli dengan bebas dibeberapa jalanan dan pasar gelap malam hari dibeberapa tempat di Jakarta, dan dibuat  secara amatiran maupun professional dengan lakon orang Indonesia ataupun bukan. Bukan itu saja, bagi penikmat video porno, mereka juga bisa mengunduh video ini secara langsung melalui akses internet. Lalu apa yang baru dengan video porno artis ini?

Apakah karena mereka public figure, maka undang-undang yang diterapkan juga berbeda, seorang public figure tidak diizinkan untuk melakukan hubungan seks apabila belum menikah atau berhubungan seks dengan yang bukan pasangannya, karena itu dilarang oleh Agama. Aku setuju ada beberapa agama yang melarang berhubungan sex sebelum menikah atau bukan dengan pasangannya karena itu dosa. Imbalan buat mereka adalah hukuman yang berat dan/atau neraka. Tapi siapakah kita yang bisa menilai suatu perbuatan itu dosa atau tidak dan lantas memberikan hukuman seolah-olah “kita ” suci dan tak pernah berbuat dosa. Hukum tentang dilarang berzinah disampaikan oleh Tuhan melalui kitab suci agama masing-masing, jadi biarkanlah si Pemberi hukum yang akan menghukumnya kelak.

Ketiga artis ini juga akan dijerat pasal-pasal tertentu dan dijatuhkan hukuman melalui proses pengadilan karena membuat video porno. Dari beberapa berita yang kutemukan di youtube, diketahu bahwa video ini dibuat secara amatir dan merupakan koleksi pribadi salah satu artis mirip pelaku. Video ini tersebar karena harddisk berisi rekaman perbuatan sex dicuri dan disebarkan. Hal ini menunjukkan tidak ada niat dari ketiga artis ini yang diduga pelaku untuk menyebarkan video ini.   hhhmmm, geli rasanya mendengar berita ini. Saya jadi heran, Mengapa semua pelaku, pembuat, dan pengedar video porno amatir dan profesional yang dengan sengaja memperbanyak dan mengedarkan selama ini tidak dihukum? Tidak adakah undang-undang yang menjerat mereka?

Berdasarkan status temanku ini, penyelidikan polisi terhadap tubuh luna maya (payudara) dan ariel (alat kelaminnya). Aku setuju dengan pendapat temanku ini, ini merupakan pelecehan namun disamping itu ini juga merupakan tindakan menakut-nakuti masyarakat. Pihak-pihak tertentu sepertinya ingin unjuk kuasa di negara ini.

Jul 5, 2010

Bule Oh Bule


I woke up in the morning lazily. I am in holiday and I have no certain activity..So I decided just to be lazy around. I  have been online from morning until evening and chatting with some of my friends. I just finished a short conversation with one of my friends in Indonesia. As far as I know, She is really into bule (westerners with a specific characteristic such as blue of green eyes, blond hair, white skin, tall and of course they come from Europe, America or Australia). I was so tired with all the “bule conversation” that she always brings and also maybe because I am inside the house and infront of my laptop for a whole day, I am quite bored so I decided to reply her message when she say hi to me. Those are a conversation between us.

Sani      : Hi ef…how are you?
Efrata   : Hi, I am fine and doing great here.
Sani      : kapan married? (when will you be married?)
Efrata   : Mungkin 2 atau 3 tahun lagi, ga tahu, belum mikirin, dijalani aja..sekarang lagi focus belajar. Lo      gimana? Siapa pacar lo skg? (maybe 2 or 3 years later, I don’t think about it yet, I still focus to my study, and you? Who’s you boyfriends now?),
Sani      : Gw belum mau bilang, ..tapi doakan saja, ntar juga gw bilang klo udah pasti. Doain aja ya..mdh2an aja gw insya Allah segera married. (I don’t want to say now, please pray that I will marry soon)
Efrata   : benarkah? amien..semoga sama orang baik2 yah (really? I hope that you are married with a  good person)
Sani      : iya.. inshaAllah. Amin... smg sm org yg baik2.. (I hope so)
Efrata   : sama bule juga? (with whom are you married? Bule?)
Sani      : thank ya say hehehe iya say.. Alhamdulillah sm bule jg (yes, with bule)
Efrata    : btw boleh nanya ga? kenapa sih lo ngebet banget pengen punya pacar dan nikah sama bule?..mang apa yang special dari bule? (can I ask you something? Why are you really into bule?something special with them?)
Sani      : lol.....  lol.. lo kok tanya gw.. lo sendiri pacaran sm sven..hehehe (why do you ask me? How about you? Why do you have a relation with sven?)
Efrata    : gw pacaran sama sven, bukan karena dia bule, tapi karena gw cinta sama dia,  sebelumnya pacar gw 2 orang indonesia..(I have a relation with him, not because he is a bule, but because I love him, before him I had 2 another Indonesian boyfriends)
Sani      : asiikk... (yippieee)
Efrata   : nah lo kan mang ngincar bule, jadi yah gw penasaran dan heran aja (but you? I am just curious.)
Sani      :ef cinta sven hihihihi J. gw gak ngincar banget kok say.. tp klo inshaAllah gw dpt bule yg baik.. yess gw mau (wew, ef loves sven. I am not targeting to get bule. But if I get a good bule, yessss I want.)
Efrata   : lah emang cinta..klo ga cinta ngapain gw pacaran.  klo lo kan, bahkan pacaran jarak jauh juga lo bela2in asal bule. (I love sven indeed, if not, why I should I have a realtion with him, but you? Even long distance relation you will, as long as he is a bule)
Sani     : semua org yg gandengan sm bule.. pasti di cap klo mereka doyan bule hehhe. (people assume that everyone who has a bule as a partner targets a bule as their partner)
Efrata  : tapi lo ga gandengan sama bule, juga dicap doyan bule.. (but you, you don’t have a bule bf, but everyone assume you are into bule)
Sani   : gw beberapa bln yg lalu putus sm ex bf.. dia dulu expat di jkt.. org aussie.. skrg pts gr2 dia selingkuh  (I was just end my relation with an Australian, because he had an affair)
Efrata : trus apa yang menarik dari pacar2 bulemu selama ini? (then what does the most interesting part of your bule bf?)
Sani    : hmm... apa ya.. beda budaya, beda ras, bahasa. (different culture, race and language)
Efrata  : trus apa yang menarik? klo beda kenapa say? (then?)
Sani     : kan seru kalo beda.. hahaha....(differential is an interesting part)
Efrata  : klo sama orang afrika kulit hitam , mau lo? (do you want to have a relation if he come originally from Africa with black skin?)
Sani     : hmmm..... gak tau dehh  (hmm… I don’t know)
Efrata  : kan seru beda banget...(but it’s really different between you and him, means interesting)
Sani     : hmm.. no comment.. ahh…. no comment.. ahh
Efrata   : hahaha.. trus klo sama bule tapi miskin banget mau lo? (If with a really poor bule?)
Sani      : hmm…pokoknya mau yang baik (I want a good person)
Efrata    : miskin juga ga apa2? miskin banget loh?(is it ok if he is poor?)
Sani      : gak tau, (I don’t know).

I know some of you will give different reactions and opinions about this conversation. But this topic is a hot topic and never ending story. I have some opinions about these conversation such as:
  1. At least, she can be honest that she is really into bule and she is honest enough to say: I don’t know with some of my questions about poor western and African. Some people will be just saying: yeah, I will as long as He is a good person, even inside their heart they will never want to have that kind of partner.
  2. She is not the only person that target a bule as her partner. Or maybe people will judge me one of them also, even I find myself not that kind of person. Is it bad or good? I am not the right person to judge. I am just worry if she is not selective enough, one day she will fall in to a bad bule and she will regret it. But even so, who am I judging her live, It’s her live anyway!
  3. But How  is this perception built? Some people’s perception which the bule is better than Indonesian? And why only  the white man? It must be a reason behind that, I think my experience can describe it:
a.  I growth in an industrial area somewhere in Riau province, the biggest pulp and paper factory in Southeast Asia is in my hometown. My mum is a Taylor and I used to help her after school. She had westerners or some  westerner’s wife  as her customers. They were really easy customers, they never bargained the price and they never complained. I built up a new perception in my brain that all westerner is a rich man and easy man.
b. I have seen many kids from mix parents Asian-European beautiful and handsome. They took all the best part physically from their parents. So I think of it, married with bule is not a bad idea to give a better inherit.
c. I have started to speak English for the first time when I was in junior high school. My teacher always said if I want to have all knowledge in this world, I need to speak English. English is an international language and by knowing the language you can open the window of the world to see everything. Because of that I go everyday to a swimming pool where all bule goes. I practiced my English there and It’s was so amazing for me to know that they were really good in English (which was very difficult for me). Because it’s really difficult, I saw someone who can speak English properly as a clever, modern, cool person. And have a relation with a bule means your English is good enough.
d. Bule comes from development countries. Which are many things far beyond developing countries. We want to be like them. I think that’s the reason why we at least I see bule “higher”.

Well,  whatever It is , in the end I just hope that She can find a good man. J